Article: Christians, Relationships, and the Friendzone

In light of recent events and some icky situations that have come up recently, I want to write an article with some friendly advice for my peers. As I see it, young people, teenagers in particular have way too much fun in gossip and playing the "he-said-she-said" game. There's nothing wrong with this, but it has potential for harm; relationships are a very serious business, and stirring up trouble before the time is right is a benefit to no one. As Christians, we have a responsibility to be God honoring and loving in everything we do, and that especially applies to teenagers. At our age, it is very easy to stray, and we need to constantly place God back at the forefront of our minds. If you are having problems with a relationship or rumors or gossip, then your first step should always be to stop and pray. Talking with your parents isn't a bad idea either. For me personally, my parents are my greatest support in many matters. Additionally, if you're serious about someone, then consider all of the factors. Are you ready? What are the consequences? Would it hurt your friendship with that person? And of course, bring all these questions to prayer as well.

Finally, I want to say a quick word about the friendzone. For those who don't know the friendzone is "A situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom as an unreciprocated romantic interest in the other. This is not a bad thing. Often, having a strong friendship is better than having a weak crush. But, while one should be careful in disturbing a friendly relationship, they shouldn't be afraid of stepping up. We cannot know other people's minds. And again, pray about this. I can't emphasize enough that God should always be first; as with everything, if we try too hard to accomplish something on our own, we will lose sight of God and stumble. 

I am not condemning anyone. In fact, I want to be available for anyone to come and talk to. I'm certainly not an expert, but sometimes it helps just to talk. I hope this article gives you some things to think about; even if you're fine right now, remember that, inevitably, a time will come when you face your own romantic trials. Remember above all else that you can do everything through Christ who strengthens you, and that without him you're nothing. Pray. Talk to your parents and close friends. And, most importantly, trust your Savior.